Thursday, January 28, 2010

In remembrance of Mr Gan : Jan-10

In remembrance of Mr Gan who passed away peacefully on 21-Jan-10



Since knowing Mr Gan, he quickly became a friend very close to our hearts. Through him, we had learnt many things in life and in faith. I am writing this not only to commemorate Mr Gan, but also to thank him for all the invaluable experiences we have gained from being able challenge together with him.

When Mummy first met Mr Gan at the national cancer centre in Mar-2009 and encouraged him to chant, he attentively listened and accepted her suggestion unconditionally. It must be his vow in the past to be the Votary of Lotus Sutra that such situation would happen, as according to Cindy (Mr Gan’s wife), Mr Gan had never accepted any religion seriously in his entire 59 years.

Following the first meeting, Mummy told Shin Yang to follow up closely with Mr Gan and made this Kosen Rufu (Propagation of the Mystic Law) battle an unforgettable one, and so began our experiences with Mr Gan.

When we first contacted Mr Gan, his condition was pretty bad with his pancreatic cancer. He was in constant pain and unable to proceed with his chemotherapy due to various conditions. In fact, he had just been discharged from the hospital and doctors are hoping that he could continue with treatment. He was not able to sit or walk for very long either. Hospice help was already in contact with Mr Gan as recommended by the hospital. All factors seemed unfavorable, but Shin Yang and I agreed that this would be the chance to prove the greatness of Nichiren Buddhism to the family.

This was our first time challenging together with a terminally ill patient, and we had our fear of not being able to be of much help. Fortunately, many leaders came and supported us.

We started chanting frequently with him and his family, from 5 minutes gradually increasing to 15, then to 30 minutes and more. From the very first time we chanted together, we were very impressed with Mr Gan's attitude during chanting. Despite his condition, he always sat up straight and held his beads upright, as if in a very solemn and dignified ceremony. Indeed, that is how chanting should always be, isn't it? We also had dialogues after chanting to share about Nichiren Buddhism. As Mr Gan's faith began to pick up, his condition began to improve by leaps and bounds too. He completed his chemo successfully and quickly, could sit longer and eat better day after day. From a cancer index of more than 1100, Mr Gan was able to reduce it to a normal level of 30+ by Sep-2009. He was able to chant, live and eat normally, and even traveled a few times for short getaways, including once with Cindy who hardly took leave from her work.

In Buddhism, we believed that everything happened for a reason. For Mr Gan, it must be his role as the bodhisattva of the earth, as the Votary of Lotus Sutra, that his life span was extended. From his miraculous recovery since March, as described by his doctors, Mr Gan has created much value and many victories in Kosen Rufu. These are victories which some long-time members may not even have achieved! Through chanting, he has definitely prolonged his life. In Buddhism where we learnt that even prolonging precious life by a day can create much value, Mr Gan proceeded to enshrine the Gohonzon in July; share his testimonial in our zone discussion meeting in September and encouraged many members; encourage his sister-in-law to enshrine her Gohonzon in September, and converted all his family members to chant before his passing on in Jan 2010.

It is quite common that people in the society, including our friends and relatives, are fond of associating death with failure in life. It is erroneous to judge one’s victory or failure in life by one’s death. Death is inseparable from life, and nobody can escape death. Instead, we should look at the values one has created in his or her life rather than just the length of one’s life span. In the last 10 months of his life, Mr Gan has created the most noble of good causes by introducing Nam-myoho-renge-kyo to his loved ones.

In buddhism, we know that it is at the moment of one's death that one's past causes and deeds show most plainly in one's appearance. At that time, there's no way to conceal the truth of one's soul. Mr Gan passed away peacefully without much pain, very uncommon for a final-stage cancer patient. In fact, when Shin Yang first saw him in bed on Thursday afternoon, she was wonderin to herself how come mr gan's face looked so tender and fair, unlike the previous time she saw him. Hence, there is no doubt that he has indeed transformed his karma & his life is a victorious one.

We felt that Mr Gan had WON in his life during his last 10 months through the values he created. And through Nichiren Buddhism, he had also transformed his own Karma, and more importantly, passed on the Buddhism to his family.

We are grateful to Mr Gan for giving us the opportunities to play our roles as Kosen Rufu Leaders, to perform our human revolution and fight the battle together with him.

Mr Gan, we have definitely grown through these experiences with you. Thank you and we believe you will very soon be reborn in the Buddha land again.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Four debts of Gratitude 四恩 : Jan-10


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Hong's Online Article on his drama : Jan-10

Below is an extract from pulse.sg where Hong is interviewed and had also related how his role in the musical is similar to mummy in her real life.

Looking at the large amount of publicity Hong is getting for his lead-starring musical drama, Re:Kindle Love (再见爱), we feel that the success of this drama could be one of his crucial moment in his career, maybe a turning point. 加油,何和鸿!

本地演员何和鸿在新加坡首部晚宴音乐剧《再见爱》(Re:Kindle Love)中饰演一名和癌症病魔搏斗,个性却乐观开朗的年轻家教。无独有偶,在现实生活中,何和鸿的母亲就是四度患上癌症。
当初何和鸿接到剧本时,他就拿给母亲看。母亲看见剧中和鸿的角色便问:这不就是在说我吗?对没有这般经历的演员而言,要揣摩癌症病患的角色或许有一定的挑战,但是对于29岁的何和鸿来说,这个角色让他颇有感触。


过去的何和鸿演绎过不少喜剧角色,这次的算是比较正经的脚色。他说:“我的母亲虽然被病魔缠身,但她是一个很乐观的人。就算是4度患癌,她还是抱着乐观的心态。而可能我这一点乐天派的个性就遗传自她。”

何和鸿说,母亲不喜欢他们为了她而难过,所以他觉得家人保持心情愉快乐观,就是对母亲一种爱的表现。

受访过程中一直面带微笑的何和鸿,让人感受到了满满的乐观和积极,而这与此剧要传达的信息不谋而合。

《再见爱》的故事讲述在孤儿院长大的男孩,虽然身患癌症却积极生活,以积极乐观的心态感染身旁的人,也对“情绪化”阿莲(李阡语饰)一家人的生活有了很大的影响。“情绪化”阿莲渐渐爱上他,可是男孩身边,还有一个默默守候着他的好朋友。现实生活中的李阡语透露,19岁的自己不曾经历过什么叛逆期,是一个和妈妈感情要好得的女生和剧中角色有很大落差。但她说:“这个阿莲很特别,不是外表上很阿莲,而是态度上的叛逆。所以演出方式很内敛,满有挑战性的。”

Saturday, January 23, 2010

Enen's First Day @ School : Jan-10

For a long while, Enen has been badgering about wanting to go to school. She wants to bring a bag, she wants to carry her water bottle, she wants a teacher, she wants to play with other children.. She wants to join the playing children fr cambridge at the basketball court in the morning.. Indeed, it is time for her to attend school, i thought. Her sisters had to go childcare because their respective babysitters could not take care of them for different reasons, but Enen has the good fortune to have a very caring, energetic and overall very very good babysitter who loves her like her own granddaughter. Moreover with me staying home, surely there is no reason for Enen to attend childcare. Nevertheless still must go school right?

Brown and beige uniform seemed a refreshing change from the usual green, so we decide to give it a shot. Successful! So this is Enen's first day of school on 18 January 2009. Some mis-communication on the part of the school and I was initially told Enen can only begin school in term 2?! Nonetheless, on 18 January at long last..

Monday, January 18, 2010

En'en getting involved in Spring Cleaning : Jan-10

Our baby in the family has grown old enough to take part in the annual spring cleaning, it seems! See how two-and-a-half-year-old En'en cleans our corridor with her older sisters.. ;)

Saturday, January 16, 2010

百万题目表 Daimoku Booklet : Jan-10

池田先生说“唱很多题目的人是谁也比不上的 - 苦不堪言的时候就唱百万遍的题目吧!”



Shin Yang has always impressed me when it comes to designing creative things for Kosen-Rufu. In this new year, she is tasked to create a million-daimoku booklet for all our Euno-West members. She has managed to design it very quickly, but not missing on every little details like our Chapter's 2010 Objectives, our motto and many guidelines on Daimoku. Every page is also designed to easily monitor the number of daimoku one had achieved and with encouraging statements to motivate one to push on in completing the booklet.

After she had finalized the design, she even contacted her ex-company's printing company and got them professionally printed! Then, she engaged a local employee (ME!) to fold, staple and cut together with her. After spending a good 2 nights, we are finally ready to deliver the 250 daimoku booklets to our members. Very time consuming and energy draining, but the end result is more than satisfying.

If you are interested to recieve one also, why not you give a comment in this blog and we'll get in touch with you and arrange to get one send over!

Friday, January 15, 2010

Hong On Papers Again! : Jan-10

In our family, Hong must have appeared the most number of times on the local papers; next is Mummy, whose count is, i think, one; the rest of us, none.. Or was Papa with his choir team featured before too? Hmm.. gotta check with him.

Next month, Hong or Trey as he is outside-the-family-known, will be putting up a Chinese musical produced by Jiu Jian(玖健). Well, this isn't Hong's first public performance (he had countless i think!).. or his first musical (though i can't afford to support all, did see him a couple of times alright).. or Chinese musical (ya, a Lao Jiu production too!)..

So what izzit about this upcoming production? Well, my brother is the lead! Unlike his first movie years ago where he was the second lead in a 3-member cast, his name appears as the first on the Cast of 《Re:Kindle Love》! So, even as a no-income homemaker, even though the show dates are so near the veri-busy pre-CNY period, even though I'm not exactly sure where is the show venue, I will bug & bug Victor to get us the tickets to see my little brother's performance for sure! Hey whoever's reading, please support too? It's only $48 per ticket without the dinner package..

Now, a little more about this first-of-its-kind Mandarin theatre-musical. Here is The Straits Times feature, as well as the 《Re:Kindle Love》publicity postcard.. but before that, the official storyline of the musical in both lingo.

《再见爱》以“爱”为主轴,讲述一个患绝症但却还是积极生活的年轻男子,他的爱的旅程及乐观情绪,使如何在不知不觉中,改变了女主角一家人看似暗淡无光的生活。它提醒着我们要保持乐观,珍惜眼前所拥有的一切,然后再创奇迹。

《Re:Kindle Love》 is a tale about promised love that is destroyed under devastating circumstances. It celebrates the optimism and hope that springs from true love, which is shared by a courageous man with those whom he loves during the journey of his life. Most of all, it reminds us to cherish our present and our lives, and to stay positive no matter how tough the going gets.

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Monday, January 4, 2010

2010 First Blog : Jan-10

Happy New Year to everyone! To begin this year's blogging, I would like to dedicate the first 2010 blog to Shin Yang, who is so important to my life. This may raise your goosepimples, but i feel often in our Asian culture, we neglect to show our appreciation to the person we love so much. It is almost 15 years since we're together, and thru' our ups and downs, we have built a stronger foundation in our relationship as well as the family. When two persons have decided to be together, I believe that is only the beginning for both to start putting efforts constantly in building their castle of happiness. Shin Yang has been 'working' laboriously on this; giving birth to our three princesses, maintaining the house, upholding faith in Nichiren Daishonin's Buddhism and much more. This year Shin Yang and I have resolved to have a victorious 2010 in all aspects, Faith, Family and Personal. 一个成功的男人,背后往往有个女人。我那个女人就是Shin Yang. :-)